People might have often heard that honesty is the best policy in everything, especially in relationships. We are often taught the saying from a very young age and are made to believe it even though that may not be the case.
Too much honesty: is that a thing?
There are often certain people who say that honesty is the best policy and believe that without it, the relationship will be unsuccessful. They lay out everything on the table, how they feel, what they like about you, what they don’t like about you, your flaws, and all of it. This can come across as quite judgemental and critical, which may not seem harmful in their mind but may end up hurting their partner. Often such relations last for a short period. This may be because the sincere person may feel that their partner does not reciprocate the same efforts and are very defensive. On the other hand, their partner might deem them to be way too critical and a complaint box regarding everything.
Therefore, yes, too much honesty is a thing and can prove to be detrimental to your relationship.
How do you know when to be honest and when to be quiet?
Before saying or pointing out anything, one should first ask themselves whether it is necessary to say it, whether it is hurtful, will it hurt your partner’s feelings, and is it honestly the truth? Asking these questions might help you to communicate better without damaging them.
This doesn’t mean that you will cheat on them and not tell them the truth because it will hurt their feelings. This method applies to things that are not as significant in a relationship. It is applicable for white lies that will not damage them in any way. For example, you might learn more about performer 8 when they ask you what you are doing. Telling them the truth here might make things awkward and uncomfortable for the two of you but hiding it will not affect either of you negatively. In such a scenario, not telling the truth might be more beneficial for you two.
Things to do in opposition to being honest all the time
Instead of being open all the time, which might hurt their feelings, focus on these things, strengthening your relationship while also telling you what is essential for your partner to know and whatnot.
- Build trust via communication:
Building trust doesn’t always mean being honest. Instead, be open to yourself, avoid infidelity, and communicate with your partner.
- Don’t share unnecessary things:
Do not lie about cheating or other big things, but small white lies here and there are acceptable and even beneficial.
- Think before you speak:
Is it necessary to comment on their painting? If not, and if it has the potential to hurt their feelings, then keeping quiet might be the best option.
Hence, honesty is essential in a relationship but may not be necessary at all times.